There's nothing like having someone flirt with you to boost your self-esteem. Even when you don't feel the same attraction, finding that someone thinks you're interesting and worth the effort can be delightful. It can be subtle or overt, over the top or just under the surface. As long as the flirting is respectful and positive, this part of the human courting dance is (usually) fun. When done properly, flirting helps the electricity build between the two of you in the beginning stages of your relationship and keeps things fun as time passes. Flirting with another woman can be tricky, though, especially if you're not certain of her sexual orientation. It's an art, really-a two-way form of communication that requires you to be able to read her interest and comfort level before proceeding further. Some people are natural flirts, but we can all use a little coaching. Observe how she reacts to your nearness.
39;s attractive. Be specific and respectful.
When you're out together, try to sit near her. Notice if she moves closer or farther away. When you're sitting on a couch and your thighs touch, what does she do? Does she let it stay, or inch away? Say it with your eyes. Look her in the eye when you are talking. Hold the stare for a little longer than you would in a normal conversation. Go out of your way to be polite. It might sound corny, but open a door for her to walk through. Don't underestimate the power of touch. If you're sitting across from each other, gently put your hand on hers. Don't move it away unless she does or if she signals that it's making her uncomfortable. Let her know you think she's attractive. Be specific and respectful. Tell her that her blue sweater really highlights the beautiful color of her eyes. Compliment her on the way her hair catches the sunlight. Say something that makes her feel seen and heard. Tell her you notice the way she gazes off to the side when she's thinking or smirks a certain way when she's holding back. Find out what makes her laugh.
Does she get off the phone quickly when you call?
Humor goes a long way in cutting the tension and loosening both of you up. Offer to get her a drink if you're at a party or bar together. Touch her hand or shoulder when you hand it to her. Show her she's not "out of sight, out of mind." Tell her you've been thinking about her. Be interested. Call her just to say hi and see what's she's been doing. Ask her how work is going or what she's done lately with a particular hobby. Send her a little note. Maybe it says you enjoyed spending time together, or maybe it's just a little "I'm thinking of you." Even better: Something that makes her laugh. An email is OK, but a handwritten note dropped at her door or mailed is more memorable. Don't overdo it. You don't want to seem like a stalker. Look for signs that your flirtation is unwanted. Does she get off the phone quickly when you call? Do you send her long flowery emails, only to get one-line answers (or none at all) in return? If so, tone it down and let her come to you if she wants. Be respectful. If you do sense she's uncomfortable or doesn't return your affection, back off graciously. Most of all, have fun! Enjoy the give and take that happens in flirting.
It's almost Halloween, and what better way to spend October than watching psychological thrillers? If you're looking for an anime filled with suspense, amazing storytelling, and dynamic characters, Naoki Urasawa's 2004 anime series Monster gives us all of these things and more. It focuses on the life of Dr. Tenma, a brilliant Japanese brain surgeon working at Eisler Memorial Hospital in West Germany, 1986. He's the hospital's rising star and engaged to the daughter of the hospital's director when he's suddenly faced with a moral dilemma that shakes his core, forcing him to make life -changing decisions. An innocent man dies because Dr. Tenma followed orders to treat a patient of higher social and political status. He is devastated and horrified as the widow confronts him, realizing what following these orders had entailed. This is a huge turning point in his life and the beginning of our story. This moment leads him to make a decision that alters his life in ways he couldn't even begin to imagine. The dilemma Dr. Tenma had to face is one that is brought up throughout the entire series: is every life equal? Obviously, the answer is "yes," and Dr. Tenma tries to convey this time and time again.
The plot of Monster is imaginative, with a well executed story.
Starting because of the innocent man dying because he wasn't deemed as a priority by the hospital, Tenma performs surgery on a boy with a gun shot wound despite receiving orders to treat the major first. When Dr. Tenma decides to help this boy, he's completely unaware that he's reviving a "monster" and the antagonist of this story. Almost immediately, Dr. Tenma is faced with tragedies and mystery at the hands of this ten-year-old boy. Most of Monster takes place 10-12 years after this point, following a string of murders occurring around Germany. It doesn't take long before Dr. Tenma is standing face to face with the murderer, who then reveals that he was the young boy Tenma brought back to life ten years prior: Johan Liebert. He shoots Dr. Tenma's patient right before his eyes and walks away like a true psychopath: cool, calm, and menacingly slow. Thus begins Dr. Tenma's journey to take Johan down, pulling him out of the shadows and into broad daylight to prevent any more murders from happening. This proves to be no easy task, though, and Dr. Tenma soon discovers there is far more than meets the eye in his journey of rectitude. The plot of Monster is imaginative, with a well executed story. The mysteries, plot, and characters are all woven together so seamlessly, and everything made perfect sense as the story progressed, while also managing to surprise at every turn. The plot is beyond compelling and riddled with depth and intrigue.
Every episode brings something new and enthralling.
Urasawa did a great job making the characters three-dimensional and real. These characters weren't good or bad, or cookie-cutter images of other characters. They were each their own person and brought something unique to the story. They made us reflect, they made us cry, and they made us feel. Every episode brings something new and enthralling. The characters are carefully developed along the way-heroes, villains, and everyone in between. There are a lot of different types of villains in Monster (with the big bad boss being Johan Liebert), which is a big part of what makes this series so great. There's not just one bad guy and a bunch of lackeys, but multiple villains of all calibers, with various levels of evil versus humanity, none of which are the same. Even Johan's followers have their own individuality as villains. Each one brings something different to the table, and we tend to hate each of these villains (or love to hate them) for different reasons.
39;re useless and unworthy of love, or even life itself.
First and foremost, there's Johan. If you like incredibly eerie, disturbing villains-the calm and collected ones that are secretly serial killers-you've come to the right place. Johan's the main antagonist of this story and Dr. Tenma's worst nightmare come to life. He constantly taunts the doctor and murders anyone in his way-sometimes for no reason at all other than he simply can. As the show progresses, secrets are revealed and more tragedies occur. We realize just how bad Johan really is and how much he seems to hustle as a villain (seriously, where does he find the time)? He is easily one of the creepiest villains in all of anime. Everything he does is meticulous, and he can't interact with anyone without ruining their lives or convincing them they're useless and unworthy of love, or even life itself. He's calculated, intelligent, and has no remorse; he knows exactly what he wants to do and will accomplish it at all costs. He isn't predictable either, which gives the story all the twists and turns it needs to be made even more interesting. While Johan is the calm, creepy evil mastermind, there are others walking adjacent paths, such as the recurring villain Roberto. This man is so easy to hate, which makes him a good villain in its own way. In contrast to Johan's insidiousness, Roberto's more of a brute force/macho man villain that you know can beat the life out of you without breaking a sweat. While Johan uses mind games to win his wars, Roberto uses his inhuman strength and size to barrel through obstacles and demolish his enemies.
He's seditious and lacks no remorse for his actions, much like Johan. However, he still bows down to Johan and does what he's ordered to. He also thinks of his own self-indulging antics as well, as seen through his multiple affairs and his toying with people. Part of what makes Johan more evil than Roberto is that Johan seems detached from being human altogether and doesn't care about following anyone's plans or desires other than his own. There are many other villains in this series with their own twists on evil as well. Some prove to be more human than what first appears, making their stories even more interesting. This series shows us we're all human and that there are blurred lines between good and evil. We are then begged to ask the question, "can truly evil people become good in the end?" Questions like these are threaded into the entire show and addressed in ways that make us stop and think. Where there are mighty villains, there are mightier heroes. No one can watch Monster and not root for Dr.
Tenma. He's the true MVP of the show. He starts out as an up-and-coming doctor paving his way into a bright future and then quickly ends up as an outlaw pursuing a phantom-type serial killer who some people, including Dr. Lunge at the BKA, refuse to believe is a real person. We find ourselves shouting "JOHAN IS NOT IN TENMA'S HEAD!" and rooting breathlessly for the doctor as he runs from the law and those wishing to cause him harm or kill him altogether. It's hard to not be on edge as the doctor pursues Johan and debates whether or not he should take away the life he gave to Liebert a decade prior. Something ending about Dr. Tenma is that no matter how much trouble he's in, he always stops to help someone in need, even if it's someone who actively fights against him. This is one of the ways he shows that he truly does believe all lives are equal. He doesn't pick and choose who he will save or give any type of medical attention to. He gives it to anyone who needs it, even if it gets him in trouble. Parallel to Dr. Tenma on the quest to take down Johan is Johan's twin sister, Nina Fortner (aka She and Johan grew up together until shortly after they were sent to the hospital the night Dr. Tenma treated Johan for his gunshot wound. After that, Anna became Nina and grew up in a nice home with adoptive parents who loved her, along with a memory problem blocking out any recollection of her childhood.